Find Your Alternative Closure!

Reflecting on a challenging year, finding closure, and moving forward.

This year feels long. Layoffs became normal. People lose their livelihoods, their jobs and are forced to move on quickly due to the uncertain socio-economic situation. I’m one of those many people who face change and need to act, react, think, and re-think their career options on a daily basis. I’m pretty sure no one would stand in the queue on this rollercoaster. Sometimes the downs are deep, and the ups are rare. But we have a lot to do. Rewrite our past, apply for a future, take care of the family, take care of ourselves, and also enjoy life while facing rejection. Easy, right?

I have tried to avoid closure

I wanted to carry everything in a big bag, but if you are about to climb a mountain, you must take the bikini out. I mean, those feelings and memories that do not serve a purpose. So after a good mix of work and leisure time, I decided to act on the closure and face the truth. How am I going to move on from this? What do I want to keep? What should I let go of? What is the lesson? What did I miss? What should I do differently in the future? And many more questions, you get the gist.

I want to help encourage everyone who went through the same or knows someone who had been laid off, fired, or rejected to find closure and move on. It can be anything. You can create, and you can destroy. It can be a memory, an object, tangible or intangible. You decide! Whatever feels good at that moment, laugh or cry about it. It’s up to you! When you are done, leave all the feelings there, or find a way to carry it with you, just not all the time.

Here is how I cheated my system:

I got a gift card. It was a present from my co-workers at my farewell party. First I thought I would buy something useful, as I always do. That shopping mall has a lot of brands to choose from, so it made perfect sense. But I kind of dislike shopping. Going in and out of stores makes me tired. I was trying to avoid draining my energies. At that time, I wrote about how to rewrite the stories we tell ourselves, and it made me think. Shouldn’t I follow my advice? Shouldn’t I buy something that helps me rewrite my feelings about this situation? Why not buy something useless per se, and capture my year with those wonderful people?

I want to remember the best times

The good laughs, the heartwarming conversations, the fun parts, the parties, the kind words, the big hugs, and all the moments that made this world a bit better for me. Sure, there were challenges and tough times, and I won’t forget that either. I want to take the golden days with me. That’s why I chose a beautiful necklace. I didn’t need it at all. I was fine without it and would be fine without that beauty, and that is the connection. If I never knew my cookies, I would be fine, but it’s so much better that I had the chance to work with them. Those people, those connections, those stories made my life richer — even those who left the company before me. I will be thankful for this opportunity, and now I will never forget them if I look at my shiny jewelry.

I have you all around my hearth.

Thank you for reading me!

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